The holidays can be especially trying for alienated and targeted parents, so it is key that they find strength, hope, and inspiration during this trying time.
Start by understanding that you’re not alone. Many parents worldwide experience similar difficulties during the holidays. Seek online and local support groups where you can share your emotions and experiences; connecting with those who understand can provide much-needed solace and an emotional support system.
Prioritise self-care. When dealing with parental alienation, it can be easy to forget your own well-being, yet taking care of yourself should remain a top priority. Engage in activities that bring comfort and peace – be that pursuing a hobby, spending time with supportive friends, or seeking professional assistance – in order to preserve emotional health for future support of your child. In doing so, your future support of them will be strengthened!
Manage your expectations for the holidays. Recognize that celebrations may fall short of your ideal, rather than fixating on what may be missing, try creating new traditions or revisiting cherished ones, whether with smaller circles of family and friends or solo. Finding joy in these moments may help lessen feelings of loss and bitterness.
Maintain a connection with your child through all available means. Send cards, letters, or small gifts that demonstrate love and hope for the future – it’s essential that they know you remain committed to their relationship and that you are always there waiting to welcome them back into it.
Hold on to hope. While parental alienation can be painful, it does not have to be permanent; children will develop their own perspectives over time and the truth can become apparent to them. Remain confident in your bond with your child and keep the door open for reconciliation.
Holiday seasons may be difficult for alienated and targeted parents, but don’t give up hope just yet. By seeking support, practicing self-care, managing expectations appropriately, maintaining connections with your child, and keeping hope alive you can find strength and inspiration to move through this challenging period of your journey with grace and steadfast love for them in mind. Your relationship will only deepen over time regardless of any obstacles thrown your way.
